Showing posts with label friends. Show all posts
Showing posts with label friends. Show all posts

Monday, January 25, 2016

Facebook--are your friends really your friends?

Most of your Facebook friends couldn't care less about you

It's the same in real life, says the anthropologist behind "Dunbar's number."

Via: The Independent / Source: Robin Dunbar


Even if you have thousands of Facebook friends, you can probably only count on a handful in a pinch, according to a new study. The author, anthropologist Robin Dunbar, should know. He's the guy who came up with Dunbar's number, which shows that in the real world, people can only maintain about 150 stable relationships. For his latest research, Dunbar analyzed a UK study of 3,375 Facebook users between the ages of 18 and 65. On average, folks had 150 followers but said that they could only count on 4.1 of them during an "emotional crisis," and only 13.6 ever express sympathy.

Those numbers line up very closely with Dunbar's previous offline studies. "The sizes of the two inner friendship circles did not differ from those previously identified in offline samples," he said. Having a lot more than 150 followers doesn't change things much, either. "Heavy users of online social media do not have larger offline social networks than casual users, even though more of these may appear online for heavy users."

Social networks typically encourage promiscuous 'friending' of individuals who often have very tenuous links to you.

Unsurprisingly, you're likely to have a larger online social network if you're young, but older people tend to have more friends in real life. "A likely explanation for this difference probably lies in the fact that [social networks] typically encourage promiscuous 'friending' of individuals who often have very tenuous links [to you]," said Dunbar.

The results confirm the obvious: Each of us has limited time and emotional capacity for social interaction, whether we're online or not. However, social networks do offer one distinct advantage -- they allow busy folks to touch base with people and keep friendships on life support. "However, that alone may not be sufficient to prevent friendships eventually dying naturally if they are not occasionally reinforced by face-to-face interaction," says Dunbar.

Wednesday, August 24, 2011

Earthquake at the beach

Tuesday, August 23, 2011

What a crazy day! It felt like we were in a twilight zone movie. The car alarm went off twice while I was trying to get the beach stuff out of the car trunk (I couldn't understand why). People were running out of their rented houses frightened because the houses were shaking. People were running off the beach scared. Two young teens were so upset I don't think they will ever go back to the beach.

One young woman said she was sleeping on the sand and it sounded like a train passing under her.  She couldn't get off the beach fast enough.

And here I am standing in the mist of this with my two girlfriends and we are just chatting and laughing and oblivious to the tremor.

Finally we had the chance to celebrate
Paula's birthday. 
We are only a few months late!
Her pina colda at the Captains Inn
was large enough to serve as the meal,
but she enjoyed and finished
her lobster dinner! 

Monday, March 28, 2011

National Friendship Week



Celebrate your friends--their uniqueness and the love they share with you (when you deserve it and when you don't)! To all my friends I wish you a joyous friendship week. Thanks Barbara for sending the email.

Wednesday, November 3, 2010

Friends

I am truly grateful for my friends. It is a comforting feeling to know they are always there and are always willing to listen to me, no matter how much I retell Laura's story. As often as I need to talk and cry I can count on them.  I wish all of them peace and blessings.

Why God Created Friends

God created friends
to make this world a warmer place--
to give a little breather
from life's rapid, busy pace.
They bring on smiles and laughter,
help to talk a problem through,
discuss the latest news
and let you air a point of view.
They understand your feelings--
are never less than caring--
God created friends
for all the special joys of sharing.



Tuesday, March 3, 2009

Wondering

Adoring you from afar
Wondering if me and you could be
But I'm too afraid to see
I see you in the morning and sometime during lunch
But never do I work up the courage to talk to you
I just walk by with my head down low
Wondering always wondering
In my mind I see us together
We're walking the beach, watching the sunset
Doing all things that couples do
But never do I express these feelings
I just keep them all locked up inside
Hoping someday somebody will find the key
And happily ever after we will be
When I do my homework or even watch TV
You always come to my mind
I think of you constantly
I walk up to you but then turn away
For your friends are there with you
And I don't know what to say
I want to get to know you but yet I stay away
Hoping that we'll get together someday
Laura

Friday, February 13, 2009

Valentine message to my friends & family

Essential Valentine
(You all know who you are!)


On Valentine's Day we think about those matchless people
who give extra meaning to our lives-
The very special few.

Without them, skies would turn gray;
things wouldn't be the same;

Life wouldn't be colorful; it would be a duller game.

And when I contemplate that group-
friends and family who are mine,

I appreciate and treasure you;
You're essential, valentine!

-By Joanna Fuchs