If Christmas is hard,

If you’ve lost someone dear.

Just look in your heart,

And you’ll know they’re still here.

 

The star in the sky,

The light falling snow.

The robin outside,

It seems like they know.

 

If this is a time,

When you’re struggling through.

Just do what you can,

For what matters, is you.

 

There’s no need to be merry,

There’s no need to bright.

Just do what you can,

It will all be alright.

 

 

 

 

A little something to ponder...

(I copied the content below from a post from my Facebook page)

I asked one of my friends who has crossed 70 & is heading to 80 what sort of changes he is feeling in himself? He sent me the following very interesting lines, which I would like to share with you ....

1.  After loving my parents, my siblings, my spouse, my children, my friends, now I have started loving myself.
2.  I just realized that I am not “Atlas.” The world does not rest on my shoulders.
3.  I now stopped bargaining with vegetables & fruits vendors. A few pennies more is not going to burn a hole in my pocket but it might help the poor fellow save for his daughter’s school fees.
4.  I pay my waitress a big tip. The extra money might bring a smile to her face. She is toiling much harder for a living than me.
5.  I stopped telling the elderly that they've already narrated that story many times. The story makes them walk down the memory lane & relive the past.
6.  I have learned not to correct people even when I know they are wrong. The onus of making everyone perfect is not on me. Peace is more precious than perfection.
7.  I give compliments freely & generously. Compliments are a mood enhancer not only for the recipient, but also for me. And a small tip for the recipient of a compliment, never, NEVER turn it down, just say "Thank You."
8.  I have learned not to bother about a crease or a spot on my shirt. Personality speaks louder than appearances.
9.  I walk away from people who don't value me. They might not know my worth, but I do.
10.  I remain cool when someone plays dirty to outrun me in the rat race. I am not a rat & neither am I in any race.
11.  I am learning not to be embarrassed by my emotions. It’s my emotions that make me human.
12.  I have learned that it's better to drop the ego than to break a relationship. My ego will keep me aloof, whereas with relationships I will never be alone.
13.  I have learned to live each day as if it's the last. After all, it might be the last.
14.  I am doing what makes me happy. I am responsible for my happiness, and I owe it to myself. Happiness is a choice. You can be happy at any time, just choose to be!

Why do we have to wait to be 70 or 80, why can't we practice this at any stage and age?

I stole this, I don't know who to credit it to, but thank you!

 Grief changes but it NEVER disappears. It will be 12 years in a few days that my daughter left this planet and I miss her every single day.

Happy Halloween

 

 

We could never forget

 

Today we remember

 

Happy International Dog Day

 

I almost missed posting pics of Zoey in honor of International Dog Day.  

Hoping all canines find a happy and loving home.

Mask?

 I don't understand the riot about wearing a mask...

Everyone has their own opinion, this is mine:

•  are you wearing your seatbelt in the car?
•  on a motorcycle do you wear a helmet?
•  on a boat are you wearing your life-saving vest?
•  in restaurants you still don't smoke?
•  are you wearing your seatbelt on a plane?

When I wear a mask in public and in stores, I want you to know that:

• I'm educated enough to know that I can be asymptomatic and still give you the virus.
• No, I don't live in fear of the virus; I just want to be part of the solution and not the problem.
• I don't feel like ′′ the government is controlling me "
• I feel like an adult contributing to the safety of our society and I want to teach others the same way.
• If we could all live with a little more attention to others, the world would be a better place
• Wearing a mask doesn't make me weak, scared, stupid and not even ' controlled ". This makes me considerate of the situation but also of others!

When you think about your appearance, your discomfort or the opinion others have of you, imagine there is a neighbor, a son, a father, a mother, a grandfather, an aunt, an uncle or a friend who is in the hospital with a ventilator installed, intubated...completely alone without any family member being allowed to visit. 

Ask yourself if maybe wearing a mask may have prevented the virus attacking another person.

Forever a part of me...

Another Mother's Day without my daughter. It will be 12 years this year and still not a day goes by that I don't have a thought of Laura. Some memories bring tears and others bring smiles.  I am grateful that I had Laura for 25 years and have so many memories to cherish.

Poem appeared on my Facebook page and I thought it appropriate to post it here.

Social isolation on seniors

Understanding the Three Types Of Loneliness

By Rebecca Shapiro / May 4, 2020

(Reprinted from my Facebook page)

Gerontologist Linda P. Fried discusses the unique mental stress of social isolation on the elderly.

The COVID-19 pandemic has shut down society in an unprecedented way, but for the elderly, the consequences of both the disease and the social distancing required to curb its spread are sizable. 

Gerontologist Linda P. Fried, dean of the Mailman School of Public Health, explains that adults sixty-five and older are at higher risk for severe illness and death from the virus because of their “decreased reserves.” 

“There are changes in our physiology as we get older that make it harder for us to bounce back from any kind of illness. We call that frailty,” Fried says. “Older people are also more likely to have other long-term medical conditions. Because of that, the body is less able to handle a major stressor or infection.”

Such physiological vulnerability is exacerbated by the fact that nursing homes, assisted-living facilities, and hospitals have been breeding grounds for COVID-19. But Fried is also concerned about the well-being of seniors who live independently. 

Fried, whose research focuses on healthy aging, says that older adults benefit tremendously by staying both mentally and physically active. Now, as people are encouraged — and in many states legally required — to stay at home, Fried worries about further isolating this population. 

“As people get older, their life circumstances change. They lose their spouses to death or divorce, friends die, children move far away,” she says. “Obviously that now has bigger ramifications. There are deep mental tolls, and one of the most devastating is loneliness.”

Fried says that older adults are prone to three specific kinds of loneliness. The first is brought on by a lack of intergenerational contact. “We need all age groups to interact to create meaningful lives,” Fried says. Second, aging adults feel lonely when they aren’t able to contribute to society. While others might bond with colleagues or schoolmates as they work or attend class online, the elderly are not likely to have such outlets. And finally, aging adults are prone to what Fried calls an existential loneliness. 

“People are wondering if their lives are going to end shortly for reasons out of their control. They’re wondering if they’ll be able to get the care they need,” she says. “And most profoundly, they’re wondering if they are going to be cast out of society. If their lives have value.”

 The COVID-19 pandemic has brought that last question into startling reality as society has grappled with impossible dilemmas. In Italy, doctors working with limited resources were forced to prioritize the care of younger adults with a better chance of recovery. As the pandemic rages across the globe, other hospitals may be faced with the same impossible choices. In addition, decisions on how and when to relax social-distancing recommendations must factor in the value of society’s most vulnerable citizens. 

“The ferocity of this particular virus has caught a lot of us by surprise,” Fried says. “We have a lot more questions than answers for the future.” 

This article appears in the Spring/Summer 2020 print edition of Columbia Magazine as part of the cover story, "What We Have Learned From the Pandemic (So Far)."

What if?

This morning I received this poem from a friend. I thought it was worth posting. Sadly, I cannot give credit to the author because no one knows who wrote it. 
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Today’s poem was shared by Truman School Psychologist, Denise Boatwright Montanez. It has been found on numerous social media sites, blogs, and local news platforms. The author is anonymous and it is difficult to trace the original source. It has been shared many times because of the hopeful message it has  for children living under the current quarantine.

The author of the poem uses repetition, a literary device which repeats a word or phrase throughout in order to emphasize a theme or concept.

Thank you Ms. Boatwright!

Please feel free to share, post, and enjoy!

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What if???

If they cancel the rest of the school year, students would miss 2.5 months of education. Many people are concerned about students falling behind because of this. Yes, they may fall behind when it comes to classroom education...

But what if...

What if instead of falling “behind", this group of kids is ADVANCED because of this? 

Hear me out...

What if they have more empathy, they enjoy family connection, they can be more creative and entertain themselves, they love to read, they love to express themselves in writing. ❤️

What if they enjoy the simple things, like their own backyard and sitting near a window in the quiet. ❤️

What if they notice the birds and the dates the different flowers emerge, and the calming renewal of a gentle rain shower? ❤️

What if this generation is the ones to learn to cook, organize their space, do their laundry, and keep a well-run home? ❤️

What if they learn to stretch a dollar and to live with less? ❤️

What if they learn to plan shopping trips and meals at home. ❤️

What if they learn the value of eating together as a family and finding the good to share in the small delights of the everyday? ❤️

What if they are the ones to place great value on our teachers and educational professionals, librarians, public servants and the previously invisible essential support workers like truck drivers, grocers, cashiers, custodians, logistics, and health care workers and their supporting staff, just to name a few of the millions taking care of us right now while we are sheltered in place? ❤️

What if among these children, a great leader emerges who had the benefit of a slower pace and a simpler life to truly learn what really matters in this life?❤️

What if they are AHEAD?

-Anonymous

We are in the same storm

I saw this on a friend’s  Facebook page (author unknown) and thought it summed up the COVID-19 situation so perfectly. May we weather this storm together. So please be kind and know....

WE ARE NOT IN THE SAME BOAT

I heard it said that we are all in the same boat, but it's not like that. We are in the same storm, but not in the same boat. Your ship could be shipwrecked and mine might not be. Or vice versa.

For some, quarantine is optimal: a moment of reflection, of re-connection, easy in flip flops, with a cocktail or coffee. For others, this is a desperate financial & family crisis.

In some homes a sole occupant faces endless loneliness. In others, family members are getting peace, rest, and time with each other — while in still others, quarantine means an increased danger due to domestic violence.

With the $600 weekly increase in unemployment some are bringing in more money to their households than they were working. Others are working more hours for less money due to pay cuts or loss in sales.

Some families of 4 just received $3400 from the stimulus while other families of 4 saw $0.

Some were concerned about getting a certain candy for Easter while others were concerned if there would be enough bread, milk and eggs for the weekend.

Some want to go back to work because they don't qualify for unemployment and are running out of money. Others want to kill those who break the quarantine.

Some are home spending 2-3 hours/day helping their child with online schooling while others are spending 2-3 hours/day to educate their children on top of a 10-12 hour workday.

Some have experienced the near death of the virus, some have already lost someone from it and some are not sure if their loved ones are going to make it. Others don't believe this is a big deal.

Some have faith in God and expect miracles during this 2020. Others say the worst is yet to come.

So, friends, we are not in the same boat. We are going through a time when our perceptions and needs are completely different.

Each of us will emerge, in our own way, from this storm. It is very important to see beyond what is seen at first glance. Not just looking, actually seeing.

We are all on different ships during this storm experiencing a very different journey.

Unknown author

Easter 2020

Many of us will not be celebrating Easter with our loved ones this year due to Covid-19.

Due to the world's circumstances, this Easter will be very different from years past.  

Let's welcome Easter 2020 with hope in our hearts, peace in our days, joy in our souls, 

and trust in God that things will get better. 

Stay safe everyone. Eventually this virus will be controlled. 

Copied from Facebook page. 

No wipes down the pipes

Townships are sending out an email that addresses the clogging of the sewer lines.  If you did not see it please adhere to this message before you accidentally cause yourself problems.

Stay healthy. 

Your power

Stay healthy in your car

How to Clean Your Car to Reduce the Spread 

of the Coronavirus

Reprinted from Facebook post: Kelly Blue Book:  Mark Elias, March 16, 2020

It is impossible to turn on the television, radio or see a newspaper without hearing about the Coronavirus Disease 2019 (COVID-19). What is it and can it make your vehicle sick?

Below is information that will help you make informed decisions on what the best practices are to keep your vehicle as clean as possible while reducing the spread of the virus.

Can my vehicle get sick from the coronavirus?

Nothing will happen to your car, truck or SUV should the coronavirus get onboard. But if not properly cleaned, your vehicle can become a harbor of all manner of unpleasantness. So we suggest taking bottles of hand sanitizer and packets of disinfecting wipes to wipe down the interior of your car and any other area that could be considered a high-touch area. A good rule of thumb is to clean areas that you contact regularly and to sanitize your hands on an hourly basis.

This applies doubly in the case of rental vehicles, ride-sharing vehicles like Uber and Lyft, share cars, share bikes, and taxis. Be sure to wipe any areas that human hands typically touch. These include door handles, door latches, lock buttons, seat belts and buckles, window buttons, mirrors, radio and climate control buttons and more.

One more bit of advice: We don’t recommend storing a large pump bottle of hand sanitizer in your car. The heat buildup may cause the alcohol in the sanitizer to “boil,” resulting in an expansion of the sanitizer’s bottle. This, in turn, might result in leakage and a mess that will require an extensive cleaning effort. It is a better idea to carry a more manageable-sized bottle, that can be on or near your personal effects, whether in the home, office or on the road.

What’s the best way to clean your vehicle to reduce the presence of coronavirus?

Disinfectant wipes work best in your car or SUV’s cabin. It is the cleaner most used by manufacturers of most automotive interiors today. All it takes is a quick wipe to clean most germs and fingerprints. Soap and water will work, too.

We suggest spending extra time on the steering wheel. According to carrentals.com, a steering wheel can have four times the amount of germs found on an average toilet seat. For this reason, we would suggest using disinfecting wipes to clean all the surfaces on the steering wheel. These include the redundant controls for radio, voice control, cruise control, navigation, and paddle shift levers. And don’t forget about the gear selector lever or the turn indicator stalks.

Also clean the door and center console armrests, display screens, cupholders, cubbyholes, air conditioner vents. Don’t forget the door “grab handles.” You touch them more than you realize and are hot spots for germs including the coronavirus. You will very likely be surprised by the amount of dirt your wipes will pick up.

What not to use

We would advise against using any type of bleach or hydrogen peroxide on the vehicle’s interior. Both chemicals can put a welcome end to the coronavirus, but they will also cause damage to the vinyl and plastics used in most modern vehicles today. Under no circumstances should you use any ammonia-based cleaning products. These can be found in “Blue Glass Cleaners.” (You know which we are talking about.) The ammonia breaks down the vinyl on the dashboard, making it sticky when subjected to heat and light. Additionally, to avoid damage to anti-glare coatings, the glass cleaner should not be used on touch display screens.

Finally, if you find yourself without any disinfectant wipes or other cleaners, a good scrubbing with soap and water can actually rid surfaces of coronavirus and other germs. It just may take a little bit longer to effectively clean it properly. Don’t scrub too hard, though, as you might find you are removing some of the surface coatings or dyes.

Wash your hands, often

Finally, we cannot say this enough: Clean your hands regularly. Even after cleaning your vehicle properly, if your hands are dirty, you are putting germs right back onto an already clean surface.

These tips and bits of car cleaning advice will help keep your vehicle more germ-free than if you left it to fend for itself. No amount of cleaning can guarantee you’ll avoid catching a bug, but these suggestions help to minimize the risk. The added bonus is that your car will enjoy its new status as a clean machine.

Remember, not all disinfecting products are pet friendly

Cleaning Products That Destroy Coronavirus

These Common Household Products 

Can Destroy the Novel Coronavirus

By Perry Santanachote / March 09, 2020 / Consumer Reports

Reposted from my Facebook feed

Consumer Reports shows you how to use them and tells you which products to stay away from

News of stores running out of hand-sanitizing gels and chlorine wipes may have you worried about how to protect your family at home as COVID-19 spreads. But plain old hand soap will go a long way.

“It isn’t possible to disinfect every surface you touch throughout your day,” says Stephen Thomas, M.D., chief of infectious diseases and director of global health at Upstate Medical University in Syracuse. “The planet is covered with bacteria and viruses, and we’re constantly in contact with these surfaces, so hand-washing is still your best defense against COVID-19.”

You need to amp up your typical cleaning routine only if someone in the household exhibits signs and symptoms of a respiratory infection, or if you live in an area with known cases of COVID-19. In that scenario, Thomas says, “Clean high-traffic areas that get touched frequently, such as kitchen counters and bathroom faucets, three times a day with a product that kills viruses.”

The good news is that coronaviruses are some of the easiest types of viruses to kill with the appropriate product, according to the Environmental Protection Agency. “It has an envelope around it that allows it to merge with other cells to infect them,” explains Thomas. “If you disrupt that coating, the virus can’t do its job.”

Even if you can't get your hands on hand sanitizer or Clorox wipes, below are a number of cleaning products you probably have around the house already, and that stores are more likely to have in stock, that are effective in deactivating the novel coronavirus. We also tell you the products that don’t work, and when you can expect retailers to stock back up on cleaning supplies.

Cleaning Products That Destroy Coronavirus

Soap and Water Just the friction from scrubbing with soap and water can break the coronavirus’s protective envelope. “Scrub like you’ve got sticky stuff on the surface and you really need to get it off,” says Richard Sachleben, an organic chemist and member of the American Chemical Society. Discard the towel or leave it in a bowl of soapy water for a while to destroy any virus particles that may have survived. 

Bleach The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention recommends a diluted bleach solution (⅓ cup bleach per 1 gallon of water or 4 teaspoons bleach per 1 quart of water) for virus disinfection. Wear gloves while using bleach, and never mix it with anything except water. (The only exception is when doing laundry with detergent.)

“Bleach works great against viruses,” Sachleben says. Just don’t keep the solution for longer than a few days because bleach will degrade certain plastic containers.

Bleach can also corrode metal over time, so Sachleben recommends that people not get into the habit of cleaning their faucets and stainless steel products with it. Because bleach is harsh for many countertops as well, you should rinse surfaces with water after disinfecting to prevent discoloration or damage to the surface.

Isopropyl Alcohol Alcohol solutions with at least 70 percent alcohol are effective against coronavirus. Do not dilute the alcohol solution. Alcohol is generally safe for all surfaces but can discolor some plastics, Sachleben says.

.  According to the CDC, household (3 percent) hydrogen peroxide is effective in deactivating rhinovirus, the virus that causes the common cold, within 6 to 8 minutes of exposure. Rhinovirus is more difficult to destroy than coronaviruses, so hydrogen peroxide should be able to break down coronavirus in less time. Pour it undiluted into a spray bottle and spray it on the surface to be cleaned, but let it sit on the surface for several minutes.

Hydrogen peroxide is not corrosive, so it’s okay to use it on metal surfaces. But similar to bleach, it can discolor fabrics if you accidentally get in on your clothes. “It’s great for getting into hard-to-reach crevices,” Sachleben says. “You can pour it on the area and you don’t have to wipe it off because it essentially decomposes into oxygen and water.”

What Not to Use Against Coronavirus

Homemade Hand Sanitizer You’re probably seeing all sorts of hand sanitizer recipes floating around your social media and the internet, but Thomas, at Upstate Medical in Syracuse, advises against making your own. “People don’t know the right ratios to use, and the internet won’t give you the right answer,” he warns. “Not only can you hurt yourself, but it could give you a false sense of security.”

Sachleben seconds that advice. “I’m a professional chemist, and I don’t mix my own disinfectant products at home,” he says. “Companies spend a bunch of time and money to pay chemists specifically to formulate hand sanitizers that work and that are safe. If you make it yourself, how can you know if it’s stable or if it works?”

Vodka There are widely circulated recipes on the internet using vodka to combat coronavirus. A couple of vodka makers, including Tito’s and Smirnoff, have already come out with statements telling their customers that their 80-proof product does not contain enough ethyl alcohol (40 percent compared with the 70 percent required) to kill the coronavirus.

Distilled White Vinegar Disinfection recommendations using vinegar are popular online, but there is no evidence that they are effective against coronavirus. (Read about the 9 things you should never clean with vinegar.)

When Retailers Expect More Supplies

Wondering when you’ll be able to get your hands on hand sanitizer, Lysol wipes, Clorox sprays, etc., at your local store? CR spoke to major chains, including Costco, CVS, Kroger, Stop & Shop, and Walgreens. They said that they are seeing temporary shortages and are restocking as quickly as their suppliers allow (though CVS says it is not seeing a shortage of disinfectant wipes and sprays). Kroger and Stop & Shop have instituted purchase limits.

But your best bet, says Burt Flickinger, managing director at Strategic Resource Group, a retail and consumer goods consulting firm, is to go to the warehouse stores and large grocery chains.

"They have their own distribution warehouses and constantly replenish their stock," he explains. He adds that Walmart has one of the best distribution chains in the country and is prepared for natural disasters like tornadoes or hurricanes. In other words, their system is already in place, so they don't have to scramble to meet demand.

Flickinger says the best time to shop is 6 a.m. to 8 a.m., because the shelves are typically restocked overnight. He anticipates that supplies from Clorox, 3M, and Procter & Gamble will be replenished the soonest.

—Additional reporting by Mary Farrell

https://www.consumerreports.org/cleaning/common-household-products-that-can-destroy-novel-coronavirus/

Happy birthday to my son

old pic

My son's birthday was this week. We celebrated with a quiet dinner at his house, which my daughter-in-law kindly prepared and served. My precious granddaughter entertained us and I got to spend hours playing with her. We all had an enjoyable time together. Although, the entire time I was there I was missing my daughter's presence. I am hoping she was in the room with us and smiling.

Tanya Lord is the author of the poem. She is also a co-founder of The Grief Toolbos (www.thegrieftoolbox.com), which offers tools to help those along the grief journey.

Reprinted from post on my Facebook page.

Happy Valentines's Day Laura

Time...

My two girls

Laura and Sierra will never ever be forgotten. 

They are my true loves and I miss them terribly. 

Happy Heavenly Valentine's Day