Monday, September 17, 2012

My Mother, My Friend

I am posting the passage that was  read at Aunt Rose's Funeral Mass,
It was written by Temple Bailey in 1933 for Good Housekeeping Magazine


The young mother set her foot on the path of life.

"Is this the long way?" asked the young mother as she set her foot on the path of life. And the Guide said:

"Yes, and the way is hard, and you will be old before you reach the end of it. But the end will be better than the beginning."

The young mother was happy, and she would not believe that anything could be better than these years. So she played with her children, she fed them and bathed them, taught them how to tie their shoes and ride a bike, and reminded them to feed the dog and do their homework and brush their teeth. The sun shone on them and the young mother cried,

"Nothing will ever be lovelier than this."

Then the nights came, and the storms, and the path was sometimes dark, and the children shook with fear and cold, and the mother drew them close and covered them with her arms. The children said,

"Mother, we are not afraid, for you are near, and no harm can come."

And the morning came, and there was a hill ahead, and the children climbed and grew weary, and the mother was weary. But at all times she said to the children,

"A little patience and we are there."

So the children climbed and as they climbed they learned to weather the storms. And with this, she gave them strength to face the world. Year after year she showed them compassion, understanding, hope, but most of all unconditional love. And when they reached the top they said,

"Mother, we could not have done it without you."

The days went on, and the weeks and the months and the years. The mother grew old and she became little and bent. But her children were tall and strong, and walked with courage. And the mother, when she lay down at night, looked up at the stars and said:

"This is a better day than the last, for my children have learned so much and are now passing these traits on to their children."

And when the way became rough for her, they lifted her, and gave her strength, just as she had given them hers. One day they came to a hill, and beyond the hill they could see a shining road and golden gates flung wide. And Mother said,

"I have reached the end of my journey. And now I know the end is better than the beginning, for my children can walk with dignity and pride, with their heads held high, and so can their children after them." And the children said,

"You will always walk with us, Mother, even when you have gone through the gates."

And they stood and watched her as she went on alone, and the gates closed after her. And they said,

"We cannot see her, but she is with us still."

A mother is more than a memory. She is a living presence. Your Mother is always with you. She's the whisper of the leaves as you walk down the street, she's the smell of certain foods you remember, flowers you pick and perfume that she wore, she's the cool hand on your brow when you're not feeling well, she's your breath in the air on a cold winters day.

She is the sound of the rain that lulls you to sleep, the colors of a rainbow, she is your birthday morning. Your Mother lives inside your laughter. And she's crystallized in every tear drop.

A mother shows through in every emotion - happiness, sadness, fear, jealousy, love, hate, anger, helplessness, excitement, joy, sorrow - and all the while hoping and praying you will only know the good feelings in life.

She's the place you came from, your first home, and she's the map you follow with every step you take. She's your first love, your first friend, even your first enemy, but nothing on earth can separate you.

Not time, not space - not even death!

(My note: How I wish I had a mother to have been able to experience the bond.)

Wednesday, September 12, 2012

Remembering Aunt Rose

Restivo family (from the left): Uncle Charlie,
my mother-in-law, Mary, Grandma Mary,
Aunt Angie, Aunt Jean, & Aunt Rose
Aunt Rose in her younger days
Aunt Rose (in white) & Aunt Angie
Aunt Rose
Aunt Angie (only sister still here), Lisa, & Aunt Rose

Christmas 2012: Aunt Angie, Aunt Rose, Craig, Sharon

Another good person left this planet--our Aunt Rose. As cousin Kim said "she has passed on to a much sweeter world than ours." I will always remember Aunt Rose as a sweet, kind, and fun-loving person who never liked to say a bad word about anyone. I will treasure our memories of the trip to Italy in 1975 (a long time ago but so clear in my mind because of the fun we shared). My first Thanksgiving in North Jersey was spent at the JC house, which was filled with Fred's aunts, uncles, and cousins. From that day on, I was partial to my mother-in-law's family. Uncle Charlie use to tease me that I was an out-law but he did it with a smile and love in his heart. No one in the Restivo family ever made me feel like an "out-law."

Aunt Rose suffered a tough journey this past year. She was blessed to have her sons, Craig and Ronnie. They took great care of her and showered her with love. They respected her wishes to the very end and they helped her die with her dignity.

Remember to count your blessings and enjoy time with the ones you love.

9/14/12: FB message from Kim--
After 91 years of life, my Aunt Rosie went home to be with Jesus. Her home was a constant reminder that she believed in God. Everywhere you turned there was some sort of reminder that we don't walk alone on this earth. That there is something far greater than all of us. Her services were beautiful. A passage was read about being a Mom. It was very touching and reminded me of all the things my Mom and my Aunt Rosie did for my sisters and cousins. It talked about being a young Mom and traveling thru the life of being a Mom and ending with what as a Mother we leave behind when we arewith whomever or whatever you believe in. I heard bits and pieces that reminded me of so many of the women I know in my life. My Aunt saw many things over her 91 years and had wisdom that only someone like your Aunt can share. I'll miss her. But I know, I know, she's walking with Jesus. She's probably talking his ear off......guess that runs in the family.

Thursday, September 6, 2012

Back to School 2012

First day of kindergarten; K is no more a long-haired baby.
She is as cute as ever though!.




Look out 4th grade

(Photograher: Melissa)

Tuesday, September 4, 2012

Almost saying goodbye to summer of 2012

As you all know, I am always reluctant to say so long to summer. I am still hanging on and looking forward to a few more good weekends at the beach.  Last Sunday night, we attended a free concert at Barnegat Bay. The band, Stictly60s, was amazing. We are looking forward to next weekend's concert, which will be the last one for the season.

I am taking baby steps in parting with the season...I switched to a new fall pocketbook and wanted to let B know and thank her again for the "no special reason" gift.